Losing A Best Friend
Most people love to think that even though a relationship ends, the friendships stays. But we all know that this isn't always true. Maybe eventually, a friendship will be able to form again, but it's hard to go from romantic relationship to friendship without one or both people thinking the friendship is more or less that it is.
So my question is, do you think that your significant other should be your best friend? If asked before recent events, I would of said without a doubt, yes! But thinking back, making that person your new best friends also may result in losing of your other friends. Another factor is what happens when that romantic relationship ends? You are not only losing a romantic partner but your best friend. Which to me, is almost worst than the romantic partner. That person you call when great and terrible things happen, the person you have gotten in the habit of telling everything to all of a sudden ends. Its a shock. I've lucky never experienced a horrible friendship break up, but I wonder if it feels the same as breaking up with a significant other who was also your best friend.
Is having your boyfriend/girlfriend as your number one friend worth the hurt of maybe losing your best friend? Or is it even possible to have a great romantic relationship without that deep, true friendship? I'm so torn on the subject. It's hard for me to imagine a long lasting relationship without a deep friendship, but I hate losing best friends because the relationship didn't work. But isn't that one of the great things about relationships? Always having a best friend there for you? I'd really be interested in hearing what people have to say.
Also, can you truly go from a deep romantic relationship to just friends? Its a horrible thing to think about. Being such great friends with a person and to have all that go away just because the relationship ended? It's awful. But is it possible to be just friends with an ex? Will all those romantic feelings just magically go away?
Just some random thoughts for now, leave a comment and tell me how you feel! I'd love to know!
Until next time,
Nothing but love
I agree that there is and has to be a fine line between being in a best friends relationship and being in a romantic relationship.
ReplyDeleteFriendship is a necessary part of any long term romance. (I mean I wouldn't kiss my enemy!) However, there is a definite risk of making your best friend your romantic friend and vice versa. I guess every relationship whether romantic or not, is a gamble. You can lose a best friend just like you can lose a romantic friend and both times you will experience feelings of hurt. Its just that if your friend is both romantic and your best friend, then the hurt will be much worse than if it was just one of those.
This is not to say that you cannot still be friends after being romantically involved. Ive done it myself with one of my ex girlfriends and after some hard work, conversations and tough decisions, we are now best friends. I still care deeply about her, i share in her victories and i give comfort to her sorrows. We are the epitome of best friends. But the romantic part? Not really there anymore because I care too much about our friendship to let it come back.
It took work and you have to be strong but it is very possible to stay friends after all is said and done.