Why Hello again!
Do people actually read this? Meh I guess its not really for you guys anyways! :) haha
Well lets see this weeks topic: Honesty
I'm reading Maya Angelou's Letters To My Daughters (great book by the way). Well in it, she discusses many important little life lessons and one that stuck with me was the one about the truth. She gives an example in her book where she states that no one really expects a true response from the question "How are you?" They expect the generic "I'm fine, and you?" Dr. Angelou says "I wish we could stop the little lies. I dont mean that one has to be brutally frank. I don't believe that we should be brutal about anything, however, it is wonderfully liberating to be honest"
These words hit home for me. Within the past couple years, I've come to realize that one trait I strong value is honesty. I don't care if the truth hurts, I want to know it. It saves me time wondering, is this what s/he really means or is there something else behind it? I'm sick of playing games, and I'm tired of those people who think they are fun. They aren't! I've never been a fan of games, board games or otherwise, and I don't want to start now. You like me? Tell me! You think that I'm fake? Just let me know if you must! I value those who tell me the truth, even if it hurts, more than those who are nice and fake to me. Like Dr. Angelou said, its wonderfully liberating to be honest. Now of course, I'm not perfect, so I cant state that I never lie, but I really try to avoid it.
These past couple of years I have learned how lies can hurt and how one lie turns into another and another. I've always had trust issues, mainly in my relationships with boyfriends. I don't know where this has stemmed from. I haven't had one of those horrific experiences where I've been lied to for years but I have felt the hurt of lies. Lies because they didn't want me to be mad. Lies because they didn't want to hurt me. Lies because they didn't care about me. These are the types of the lies that hurt the most. I don't think anyone truly knows the repercussions of they're lie. How many people it effects.
So just try it. Try being honest with someone. Again, this doesn't mean you have to be rude, but tell it like it is. You don't like the way someone does something? Tell them. You want to tell someone they are wrong? Do it! But do it in a way that isn't harsh, but doesn't conceal the truth. It feels great.
Truth takes courage, which is another thing Dr. Angelou thinks everyone should have. You can do anything with courage; pair that with honesty and nothing can stop you.
Till Next Time:
Nothing but love
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